Sensational singer Simisola Kososko popularly known in music circles as Simi has responded to Chimamanda Adichie’s conversation on the cost of motherhood.
Recall that Chimamanda who opened up on cost motherhood during an interview on BBC’s Woman’s Hour said that could probably have written two novels had I not had my child.
The author who has her works translated into over thirty languages also talked about motherhood being a “glorious gift” but says it comes at a “cost” to women.
She said; “Becoming a mother is a glorious gift but it comes at a cost and I think it’s important to acknowledge that, right?
“There is something that we… and I will say ‘lose’.” Chimamanda added in part.
In her response to the comments made by the renowned author, Simi said that “mothers should not feel guilty for choosing themselves and doing whatever they need”.
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She wrote; “She captured this so beautifully. I remember I had the creative brain freeze too when I was pregnant. It shocked me lol. I’d never felt anything like that before.
“Every mother’s journey is different. Some are happy to ‘lose’ whatever they lose. For others, it’s just a bit too much. Your only job is to support her, not judge her experience.
“I hope we can actually see mothers more and not just beautiful babies. Mothers should not feel guilty for choosing themselves sometimes and doing whatever they need to be the kind of mothers they need to be. Because, trust me, the majority of the time, they have to choose someone else.
“So many moms are struggling with depression and can’t speak about it because they’re afraid to be judged as bad moms. You’re not a bad mommy. You’re a person. And you deserved to be seen.
“Lastly, in my opinion, saying “just have all your kids and get it out of the way” is such a careless thing to say. Children don’t get out of the way – unless you’re not actually planning to raise them.
